March 16, 1934 ~ March 7, 2009

Born in: Buncombe Co.,
Resided in: Asheville, NC

James Henry Shillinglaw, 74, of 146 Stradley Mountain Road, Asheville, died Saturday, March 7, 2009. Mr. Shillinglaw was born in Buncombe County and was the son of the late Tracy and Cora Knighten Shillinglaw. He served as an aircraft mechanic in England with the US Air Force during the Korean War. Following that he worked for Civil Service at Eglin Air Force Base, also in aircraft mechanics. He worked for American Enka for 14 years and retired in 1999 from the Guest Relations Department of the Biltmore Company. Mr. Shillinglaw enjoyed a variety of activities, including photography, fishing, and music, especially Southern Gospel. He also enjoyed all sports, especially basketball. He is survived by his wife of 50 years, Helen Cutshall Shillinglaw; two daughters, Vickie Ray and her husband, David, of Candler, and Sebrena Fair and her husband, Jim, of Black Mountain; four granddaughters, Jessica Ray, Emily Ray, Samantha Ray and Brittney Clement; two step-grandsons, and one step-granddaughter; one sister, Ann Phillips of Asheville and one brother, Bob Shillinglaw of Dallas, TX. The funeral will be at 2:00 p.m. Tuesday at Bent Creek Baptist Church with the Rev. Tommy Bridges officiating. Interment will follow in the church cemetery. The family will receive friends Tuesday at the church from 12:30 to 2:00 p.m. prior to the service.

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  1. I am the daughter of Andral and Georgia Shillinglaw. My father, Andral and Tracy were brothers. I was terribly sorry to hear of Henry’s passing. I understand that it was a shock for the family. I remember Henry coming to visit us when I was just a little girl. He stayed with us for a couple of weeks and I thought he was so handsome and sweet. It must have been when he came home from the Korean War, because I remember how handsome he looked in his leather bomber jacket. I won’t be able to attend the service, but I do send my deepest sympathy to Helen and all of Henry’s family.
    Cindy Harry

  2. I was the a chaplain you met at Mission Hospital. I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that I am keeping you in prayer. Peace Gerry Smith

  3. Henry worked for me at Biltmore House. Was quite a host in the house. He was one of my best friends. Will never forget him.

  4. To the Shillinglaw Family,
    Helen, I am very sorry to read of Henry’s passing. I knew Henry because I worked with Tracy at Biltmore Dairy for many years. I had lost track of him a long time ago. As we age we forget and everything moves so much faster.
    I am sure Henry will be missed by all your family.
    Please except my sincere condolences.

  5. Sabrina, I did not know your father, but do know that he helped create a beautiful, caring person…YOU! I am truley sorry for your loss. I will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.

  6. We are so sorry to hear about your loss, we do know he is with our precious Lord & Savior and would not ever want to come back, one day we’ll all see him again soon, what a wonderful day that will be!!!

  7. Henry’s Family, When I returned home from WW II Henry was a 12 year old and his family and his Uncle George’s Family attended my home church the West Asheville Presbyterian Church. My wife of 60 years was the DCE and Minister of Music at the church at that time. The Shillinglaws were very active members and both brothers worked for Biltmore Dairies and lived on the Estate. The last time we saw George he was working at Biltmore House when we visited. We are never ready in life to lose our loved ones and the only comfort has to come from our Faith in the Sovereignty of God and the manifested concern of caring friends. Please know we are thinking of you and will hold you in our prayers. Joe & Zunita

  8. Sebrena I was so sad to see the news of your dad today. Please know you are in my thoughts often & now you and your family are in my prayers through this difficult time

  9. Helen, Vicky, & family, Henry will be missed so much. I’ll miss the Sunday morning hugs at church & his big smile. Henry was such a special person to me, always picking me up for basketball practice, making sure I had a ride coming home, how can I forget him driving our bus to games & to basketball camp. All of you are in my prayers,and someday will see Henry again.Who knows maybe he will be driving that big bus in the sky. Love to all Mitz Fisher Hendersonville NC.

  10. Helen & family,we will miss Henry but know one day we will be with him again. Your in our thoughts & prayers, may you find comfort in our Lord & Savior. Toby & Margaret Farmer Arden NC

  11. Sebrena, Brittney and Family,
    I am sorry for the heartaches you are all going thru at this time. We all know that your dad is in a much better place, free from pain and sorry. Always know that his love is shinning down on you all.

    Please know that if I can do anything to help you out, just call.

  12. Helen, Vickie, Sebrena and all the rest of Henry’s family: Henry was my first cousin and also our neighbor. I just wanted everyone in the family to know that we will be praying for you daily that God will give you peace and comfort during this difficult time. We know Henry is at peace now and in a much better place with no more pain or sorrow!

  13. Jim, Sebrena and Brittney,
    We are so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. We will have you in our hearts and prayers. We love you, Wayne, Stef and the girls

  14. I HAD TO SHARE THIS THOUGHT OF MY DAD. HE WAS THE BEST AT SO MANY THINGS. FIRST OF ALL HE WAS A GREAT CHRISTIAN AND A MAN WHO ALWAYS LOOKED TO GOD FOR ALL OF HIS ANSWERS. FROM THAT HE WAS A GREAT FATHER, A HONEST FRIEND AND A LOVING HUSBAND TO MY MOTHER THAT MADE OUR LIVES SO Complete. THERE ARE NO WORDS TO EXPRESS MY DAD’S KINDNESS AND THE BEAUTY OF HIS HEART. HE WOULD ALWAYS SIT AND TALK WITH YOU NO MATTER WHAT THE PROBLEM WAS AND INSTEAD OF JUDGING YOU HE ALWAYS TRYED TO HELP YOU FIND THE ANSWERS. HE WAS A TRUE CHHISTIAN AND ALWAYS TAUGHT ME ABOUT LOVING UNCONITIONALLY AND FORGIVENESS. I KNOW NOW HOW IMPORTANT THOSE 2 THINGS ARE. Dad was a great father and always showed by example. He lived what he preached. He was a one in a million and had a heart and soul that I know only God could be in control of.I could never have asked for a better father, friend, or someone to help me through life. He was one of the most terrific parents that a girl could ask for. He was a true man of God and what always stays in my mind is 2 things, always treat someone like you want to be treated and always love unconditionally just like God loves all of us. He was one of the most caring but strong men and had the heart of a true christian which he was. He was caring but yet strong, sweet, stout when needed and had the heart of a true christian which he was a man of God!!!!!!!!!!I will miss him greatley but I know he is in a better place with NO more suffereing. I will miss you my sweet, sweet Dad but as you and Mom always said I’ll see you when we get home. And until then keep my place warm and we truley miss you but know that you are in a much better place with God.Mom,Vickie, and I feel so very blessed to have had such a wonderful father and for my Mother a husband that was so very giving and so kind that words can not describe. I know you are with God Dad and when we all meet again what a beautiful day that will be.

    All my Love
    your daughter

  15. Dear Helen,
    I was so very sorry to hear about Henry going home to be with the Lord. He has a special place (as do you) in my heart as a caring brother in Christ who always had a ready smile, big hug and word of encouragement to lift my spirits he was a blessing. I was so sad/surprised to hear that he died so suddenly and thankful I could be there for you. It was wonderful to see you and you still have that caring, nature and felt the love you had for me. I will be praying especially for you, your family, Ann and Gail. I will miss him and you. If I can do anything let me know. God bless you and comfort you. Isahia 43:3,4 Num 6:24-26. Love, Susan Williams. PS When you are able make a list of all the special memories you have of him share it with your/siblings/children/grandchild/ggchildren about your time together though your eyes and heart. Then just for you write a goodbye letter to share what you didn’t get to say to him might help hope it does. God bless you, Susan

  16. Grandpa I miss you so much! I can’t wait to be with you again. Words can’t even begin to explain the hurt when I found out that you had passed. You are always in my thoughts. I love you grandpa with all my heart.

    Love, Samantha Ray.


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