Ralph M. Feemster

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Weaverville - Ralph M. Feemster, a native of Asheville who loved his family, his work and the game of golf, died at St. Joseph's Hospital on Feb. 21 of complications related to blood cancer. He was 86. Mr. Feemster was born in Asheville on February 5, 1927, the son of Clough Harmon Feemster and Mary Alma Bankhead Feemster. He served in the U.S. Navy after graduating from Lee H. Edwards High School in 1943. He began a long career in the U.S. Postal Service in 1945. He met his future wife, Vida Johnston Brown Feemster, in first grade at Eugene Rankin School in Asheville. They grew up together in West Asheville and graduated from high school in the same class. After returning from service in the U.S. Navy, he courted her for five years. They were married in October 1950. Mr. Feemster always worked. He delivered newspapers as a boy, jerked sodas at Bilbro's Drug Store in high school and worked at the Asheville Citizen Times as a copy boy. After receiving an honorable discharge from the Navy, he began a long career with the US Postal Service in the Postal Accounts Division, which had offices in the Grove Arcade Building in Asheville. Not long after the Feemsters were married, the Postal Service offered Mr. Feemster a promotion to join one of 10 newly created regional payroll offices around the country. When he took the list of new offices home, his wife said she would be happy to go anywhere but Minneapolis. Minnesota was too cold. Meanwhile, Mr. Feemster's boss in Asheville planned to move to Minneapolis and asked him to go along. He talked about the great fishing in Minnesota's lakes and promised him a central role in the new office. Eight months after they were married, the Feemsters shipped their belongings to Minneapolis and caught a ride to their new home with another couple moving up north. They lived in a hotel for several months because housing was still tight, before finding an apartment in someone's home. They took the streetcar to work and saved money to buy a home. Mr. Feemster worked additional jobs as a consultant to the Hennepin County Auditor and to Land 'O' Lakes Creamery in Minneapolis. Over the next three decades, Mr. Feemster held a number of management positions at the Postal Service. He was appointed Director of the Minneapolis Postal Data Center in 1965. He helped convert the Postal Service Payroll System from a manual system in each post office to the regional system with ten offices. By the 1970s, the other nine offices had been closed and Mr. Feemster's facility in Fort Snelling, Minn. had become a centralized national office that paid 800, 000 employees every two weeks. In his spare time, Mr. Feemster was a Cub Scout pack leader for Pack 193 at Armitage Elementary School. The Pinewood Derby was a big Cub Scout event at that time. He helped his sons, Ron and Dave, build toy race cars with Pinewood Derby kits and was mildly embarrassed, as pack leader, when his own sons won the races three different years. His family fondly remembers the big brick grill and the strawberry patch in the back yard of their home in southwest Minneapolis. Every year, Mr. Feemster threw a party for neighborhood children from blocks around. He served all the hot dogs and homemade ice cream they could eat. The kids were happy to crank the ice cream maker by hand. The Postal Service had asked him to move to Minneapolis and they eventually asked him to move on. In January 1979, he was appointed Assistant Postmaster General, Management Information Systems Department. At the time, he was the youngest person ever to have been appointed an officer of the Postal Service. At first, he was reluctant to leave Minnesota. He commuted to Washington every week. He and his wife moved to Annandale, Va. in 1979. In 1983, about the time he became eligible for retirement, he was asked to establish the National Information Systems Development Center in Raleigh, N.C. He was initially reluctant to take the job because he was not allowed to hire the employees he wanted. When he announced his retirement in 1983, the USPS reconsidered his requests. He took the job and managed that facility until he retired in 1988. Mr. Feemster had learned to golf on the course at Fort Snelling, a public course that he could see from the windows of the payroll center in Minnesota. In Raleigh, he was a member of the North Ridge Country Club. In his first year of retirement he played 300 rounds of golf. Throughout his life, Mr. Feemster always wanted to return to the mountains of North Carolina. He and his wife moved back to Asheville in 1997. Since moving to Asheville he has been a member of the Black Mountain Golf Club. He played three times a week with the Geritol group, a group of gentlemen golfers who like to talk about shooting their age. When he stopped playing in the summer of 2012, he believed he was the oldest active member of the group. He is survived by his wife, Vida Johnston Brown Feemster and two sons, Ronald Craig Feemster of Lander, Wyo. and David Scott Feemster of Wausau, Wisc., who is married to the former Lorna Rock of Stratford, Wisc. He has three grandchildren, Lauren, Martha and John, children of David and Lorna. He has a niece Nancy June Feemster Rymer and her husband Franklin Rymer of Salt Lake City, Utah. He was preceded in death by his brother, C. H. Feemster, in 1998. Mr. Feemster rarely ended a phone call or an email with his grandchildren without telling them how proud they made him. He generously shared his memories of World War II with them, and was doubly proud when they used those interviews for school history projects and received top grades. In Asheville, he was an active member of Central United Methodist Church and the Covenant Sunday School Class. After retirement he continued to work part time. He sold watches at JC Penney's and later served as a court reporter for the Office of Administrative Hearings for the state of North Carolina. In 1995, he became a contractor for the Social Security Administration, working as a verbatim court reporter in Asheville. He has also worked for Kelly Temporary Services as a program manager for seminars held in hotels in the Asheville area. If there are part-time jobs in heaven, Mr. Feemster is sure to apply. A memorial service will be held at 11 a.m. on Saturday, March 2 at Central United Methodist Church, 27 Church St., in Asheville. A reception will follow the service. In lieu of flowers, the family requests memorial donations be made to Central United Methodist Church. Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian is assisting the family.

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  1. Dear Vi and family. Our hearts are so very sad to lose our dear friend. Ralph was a gentleman and very kind person to know. We never seen him when he wasn’t happy to see you and concerned about Vic.
    May God give you peace in spirit and soul in the coming times of grief. Love and Prayers. Vic and Effie

  2. Dear Vida and Family, Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. May God fill you with peace!
    Ed Hillman, Chaplain, Givens Estates

  3. Dear Vida, you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. With the passing of Ralph, we feel the loss of a fine gentleman and a long time friend. Sincerely, Charlie and Helen Cordell.

  4. I remember, as a child, meeting Mr. and Mrs. Feemster at my grandparents’ home in Hendersonville, NC. My grandparents always looked forward to having them visit. I distinctly recollect their warm smiles and kind nature. Then when my parents visited NC several years ago, they graciously offered their home as overnight accommodations. Just incredibly thoughtful. We know Mr. Feemster will be missed tremendously. We are sending our deepest sympathy to Mrs. Feemster and their entire family.

  5. Mrs. Feemster and Family,

    We were sorry to hear of your loss. I know that there was a strong friendship between you and my parents as part of that Class of 43 and that you helped to keep things going with the group along with my Dad. You were also there as good neighbors in Biltmore Park and I know that my parents were sad when you moved to North Asheville.

    My Mom and I wanted you to know that we will keep you in our prayers during this difficult time.

    Joe Clark, Jr and Zunita Clark

  6. Dear Mrs. Feemster and Family,
    Please know we’re sending our deepest sympathy. Both our parents and grandparents always enjoyed the times they visited with you. We’re keeping you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

  7. We celebrate Ralph’s joyful years with his great family and friends, important work with the post office and the good times wherever he was. What a beautiful life with his lovely wife (and family)! Know heaven is rejoicing though we will all miss him so. With much love and admiration, Ginny Lentz, neighbor and friend

  8. My neighbor, Ralph was always smiling and looking for a new joke to share with me… and at our neighborhood gatherings. He and Vi quietly kept their beautiful gardens in pristine condition as a labor of love for all to enjoy. I shall always remember his kindness and gentleness with great affection for him and his cherished family.
    Jack Poisson, friend

  9. We loved this man, with his great smile and warm heart. He will be greatly missed but, I know there is a special place for him where he can be painfree.
    Our sympathies to all the family but, don’t worry about Vi Ralph, we’ll watch out for her.
    Love,
    Myron and Angela

  10. I will always remember the smile and good cheer that Ralph spread with each walk around our neighborhood. Smokey and I miss this wonderful man.

  11. Dear Vida.
    We are certainly thinking of you.
    Tom tells me he has fond memories of Ralph through the MYF at Trinity and other activities in their teen years!
    From all reports Ralph has been a great ‘contributor’ in many ways to all the communities you have called home.
    We send our love and prayers,
    Tom and Mary Jo Harrison

  12. Our condolences to Vi, Ron,Dave, Lorna and the grandkids.

    Ralph and I had many similarities in our lives. We wer born at about the same time, raised as Methodists, delivered papers, always worked as kids. We were both Storekeepers in the US Navy.Later we Pinewood derbied with our sons. Also, Ralph and Erica were both selling jewelery at J.C. Penny,s

    But the overarching coincidence was our love for the game of golf. Sadly,both us never came close in mastering it.
    Ralph was the epitome of the Southern gentleman – a demeanor which went well in the Norh too.

    We will miss Ralph,s and Vi,s trip to Wausau and the good times we had.

    There is a golf course in Heaven, isn,t there?

    Love.

    Joe and Erica McCollough

  13. Vida and Family,

    I was saddened to hear of Ralph’s death. The Class of ’43 has lost another leader. It is hard to imagine that Ralph, Joe Clark and Dad all three died in less than a year. They embodied all that is good and decent in human kind.

    This world is a better place because the walked among us. Dad and Ralph, even though separated by miles for many years, still shared a lifelong friendship.

    Dad and Mom counted the two of you among their very best friends. I remember fondly your having me to your home in Minneapolis about 40 years ago.

    I regret that I will not be with you on Saturday to celebrate Ralph’s life. Please know that others care and share in your loss.

    Well done, thou good and faithful servant.

  14. Vi and Family,

    We at Hamburg Crossing are saddened by the passing of our Ralph, a true friend and neighbor. We have enjoyed the friendship and care of Ralph and Vi, as both of them made our lives a little bit better. I will remember our walks around Hamburg circle together where both Ralph and I attempted to tell the best joke we knew.

    Somewhere in heaven God is smiling.

    Bob and Joanne Webb

  15. Vi,
    We have fond memories of Ralph. Bill especially remembers their years of working at Kenmure golf course. Our sympathy goes to you and your family.

  16. So sorry to hear about your loss. Winford called us. Ralph had a very full and rewarding life. So wonderful he could be able to continue with projects he enjoyed. Thinking of you at this time. Love, Martha

  17. Dear Vi and family. Sorry to hear about your loss. Ralph was a great guy, true friend and great neighbor. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, dave, and Lorna..
    Sherm and Donna

  18. dear vida, sorry to hear of ralphs passing, he did live a very busy and active life. I enjoyed working with him and for him very much. always grateful for the opertunity he gave me when he included me to help in the new payroll system at the data center. rest in peace boss

  19. Dear Vi,

    I will never forget the wonderful times the four of us (you and Ralph, me and Gary) had together. We so enjoyed our outings together. Gary loved Ralph, and always said, ‘Ralph is the finest boss I’ve ever had’ and the two of them surely had great and unique times together in the Postal Service. I send you all my love and sympathy. Love, Laura

  20. Vi, we just learned of Ralph’s passing. Ralph was a wonderful man and a very special person to Bob and me. We loved his smile, his great humor and everything else about him. We still miss you both and pray that you are finding comfort in God and your many friends. Heaven has a ‘special angel’. Hugs from both of us Vi and much love to you.

  21. Vi, we just learned of Ralph’s passing. Ralph was a wonderful man and a very special person to Bob and me. We loved his smile, his great humor and everything else about him. We still miss you both and pray that you are finding comfort in God and your many friends. Heaven has a ‘special angel’. Hugs from both of us Vi and much love to you.

  22. Vi
    I just saw this when browsing names from yesteryear.
    It was such a joy to live beside you and Ralph in Raleigh. Many memories abound, especially because you were so kind to my children. It has been seven years since Ralph died and I know you still miss him. Our Heavenly Father has promised eternal life. We will meet again.
    Blessings


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