Sandra Goldstein Havey

sandra havey

January 12, 1943 ~ January 19, 2020

Born in: Philadelphia, PA
Resided in: Asheville, NC

Sandra Goldstein Havey, 77, passed away Sunday, January 19, 2020.

Born in Philadelphia, PA, Sandy was the youngest daughter of the late Samuel and Ruth Goldstein. She was preceded in death by her brother, Arthur Goldstein.

Sandy grew up in North Philadelphia where she attended school. She was also a student at a Hebrew language school, as is customary for children of Jewish families in the US. She later enrolled in Temple University’s night school where she met her husband, Thomas John Havey.

In 1964, Sandy and Tom married and established their home in Mount Laurel, New Jersey. Throughout her life, Sandy devoted time by helping the elderly, teaching Sunday school, and raising her family. For several years, Sandy and Tom owned racehorses and enjoyed traveling to various venues wherever their horses competed.

For many years, Sandy and Tom were active members of the JayCees of Maple Shade, New Jersey, a community service club where they hosted multiple gatherings, extended hospitality, revamped the train station, repaired houses, and organized fundraisers. Sandy and Tom also enjoyed playing cards and socializing with friends.

Sandy worked at Wedgewood Farms in Burlington, New Jersey for 35 years. Wherever Sandy worked and lived, she valued genuine friendship and was energized from being with others. She exuded an outgoing, loving, and deeply compassionate spirit and loved to hear and tell good stories.

Taking walks in the sunshine, baking nutritious baked goods, and helping those less fortunate were part of her everyday life. Line dancing was a favorite hobby as well as spending time at the Jersey shore. Sandy loved traveling around the country in order to visit her children and grandchildren regularly. Sandy also loved her country and was a dedicated patriot of the United States.

While living in Philadelphia, Sandy was an active member of Calvary Chapel of Philadelphia. After moving to Asheville, North Carolina in 2018, Sandy intentionally invested her time at Biltmore Church: through a Connect group and a women’s Bible study. Sandy was also an active part of The Refuge House of Prayer. Her gift of building relationships and making people feel loved is evidenced in the numerous people surrounding her in Asheville.

Sandy is survived by two daughters, Pamela Havey Lau (Brad) of Newberg, Oregon, Rebecca McDowell (Steve) of Arden, North Carolina, and one son, Daniel Goldstein of Jerusalem, Israel as well as six grandchildren: Michaela Lau Semple (Joshua), Annalise Lau, Gabrielle Lau, Parker Pulliam, Ava Pulliam, and Max McDowell. She is also survived by a brother, Marvin Goldstein.

Sandy’s memorial service will be held at Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian with family and friends on Monday, January 27, 2020 at 10 am and the family will receive friends at the funeral home immediately following the service. In lieu of flowers, it was Sandy’s wish for others to offer forgiveness to others for any grievance, hurt, or betrayal.

Services

Memorial Service: January 27, 2020 10:00 am

Room: Chapel

Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian
72 Long Shoals Road
Arden, NC 28704

(828)687-3530
http://www.grocefuneralhome.com

Visitation: January 27, 2020 11:00 am

Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian
72 Long Shoals Road
Arden, NC 28704

(828)687-3530
http://www.grocefuneralhome.com

Burial:

Calvary Episcopal Churchyard
Hendersonville Road
Fletcher, NC 28732

828-252-3535

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  1. May God in the weeks ahead replace the sorrow that fills your hearts now for the passing of your loved one with the memories of loving moments spent together. May you find comfort in knowing she is with Her Lord and Savior Jesus. What joy we have in knowing that all who share in this faith will be reunited again for all eternity. No goodbye, only I’ll see you later.
    Peace to you all.

  2. Sandy was refreshing. She was the real deal that didn’t mince words. You didn’t have to read her mind or play Mind Games. She loved Jesus, her family and most people. We will miss her beauty inside and out! Rest in glory my friend!

  3. It is a beautiful image to think of Sandy line dancing with Jesus. I pray your whole family is comforted in knowing she is pain-free and delighting in His presence. A stronger witness for Jesus and family, I have never seen. It really was a blessing to know her.

  4. Sandy was a special lady that I feel privileged to have know. She loved her family, her friends, her church and had a strong walk with the Lord. She has left an imprint on the hearts of those who knew her.

  5. Aunt Sandy you will be greatly missed by everyone. You were such a beautiful individual inside and out. May your family find comfort that you are no longer in pain. I know my dad was waiting for you with open arms. I will always love you. BDE

  6. I will always remember my Aunt Sandy with fondness. I wish you all comfort,peace,good memories in the coming weeks. She was a beautiful soul,inside and out. I remember her living with us for awhile as a young child. Love Michelle

  7. Sandy was a very loving woman of the lord.A good listener.Whenever she encouraged you she meant it.I was blessed to know her .Rest in the glory of the lord Sandy .We shall meet again for sure ..

  8. I met Sandy 25 years ago at a Western Line Dance club. I instantly felt drawn to her sweet personality that made it a pleasure to be with her. She was always there for me and I will miss her terribly.

  9. I have only known Sandy for around a year and a half or so. She joined our Community Group from New Life Community Church. She brought a fresh perspective to our Bible study. In the beginning of Chapter 3 in Ecclesiastes (ESV), the title says “A Time For Everything.” In verse 1 it reads, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under Heaven:”….. Even though our small Group has only known Sandy for a short period of time, we are glad that it was our season to have a chance to meet her, grow with her, and pray with her. Until we meet again Sandy…..

  10. Sandy and I worked together and have been friends for 28 years at the Wedgewood Restaurant. She was a person that showed compassion and care and always stood-up for what she believed in. We would have some great conversations, not always on the same page, but we respected each other’s opinions. All of my co-workers, including Sandy enjoyed meeting for dinner together every couple of months. I will miss her laughter and friendship. Love and miss you Sandy, until we meet again in God’s kingdom.
    My prayers for comfort and peace in the coming days to Sandy’s family.

  11. Dear Rebecca…
    I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious Mother. You and all your family are in my prayers so much. My heart really goes out to you all. May God give each of you the grace you need each day and fill you with His peace that surpasses all understanding. I am here for you and truly want to help in any way I can. God bless you and your family my sweet friend.
    Much love…
    Renee

  12. Dear Rebecca…
    I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious Mother. She was such a sweet lady and I know she is deeply loved and will be greatly missed. You and all your family are in my prayers so much. My heart goes out to all of you. May God give each of you the grace you need each day and fill you with His peace that surpasses all understanding.
    Much love…
    Renee

  13. Dear Rebecca and Family,
    Your mom was such a bright light and I am sorry that God took her so young from your life. She was so beautiful and I’m glad that I got to meet her and know her. We understand your grief and Will be there for you through this difficult time. May God give you the peace in knowing she’s OK and in a better place. You are a great daughter and should have no regrets. We will be there to lift you up on Monday.

  14. To Sandy’s family:
    I only knew Sandy for a year after meeting her at the YMCA and asking her to join our Bible study of Revelation each week. She became a good friend as we walked with her during her declining health. My husband preceded her entrance to heaven by two months so we prayed often for both him and Sandy to experience God’s presence and comfort as they waited for their angel escort. We know you’ll miss her, but our comfort lies in knowing we’ll see her again. May God’s peace wash over each of you.

  15. *Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.-Bible

    Daniel and family.
    May the consolation and the peace of the Lord remain in each of you as you go through this hard and long process of mourning. My prayers with you.

  16. Daniel and Family
    You are in our thoughts and prayers for the Lord’s peace, comfort and strength to be with you at this time. Saying goodbye to loved ones is never easy but we can take comfort in knowing that they are safe in the Lord’s presence and we will one day be reunited.
    The Hancock family.

  17. Daniel and Family ,
    May the Lord comfort all of you and be with you at this time.
    The Pinto family from Australia.
    01-31-2020

  18. Dear Daniel and Family,
    I was moved reading about your mom’s life, the compassionate person she was and the contribution to other people’s life is an example to me. May her soul rest in peace.

    Blessings that the Lord’s comfort and Shalom is with all of you at this time.
    – Cindy from India


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