Cary Caperton Owen

February 19, 1935 ~ May 4, 2013
Resided in:
Asheville, NC
Cary Caperton Owen, age 78, passed away peacefully at the John F. Keever, Jr. Solace Center – CarePartners in Asheville, NC on May 4 following a long and courageous journey with Alzheimer's disease. She was surrounded by those who loved her dearly.
She was born Jacqueline Cary Caperton on February 19, 1935 in New York City, the daughter of Eliza Ambler Caperton and William Gaston Caperton. Shortly after her birth, the family moved to Charleston, West Virginia. Cary married Charles Dexter Owen, Jr. on February 23, 1957. She and Charlie settled in Asheville, NC.
Cary is survived by her husband Charlie; one brother, Gaston Caperton; daughter Anne Owen Armfield and husband Edward of Winston-Salem, NC; son Charles Dexter Owen, III and wife Eleanor of Asheville, NC and their three children Charles Dexter Owen, IV, Laura Fendrich Owen, and Catherine Aitken Owen; daughter Diana Owen Harris and husband Joe of Creedmoor, NC, and their two children Joseph Allen Harris, Jr. and John Mason Harris; daughter-in-law Deborah Owen-Wilhelm and husband Dan and grandson William Caperton Owen, II of Rochester, MI. Cary was preceded in death by son William Caperton Owen.
Cary will be remembered as strong and compassionate, always putting the needs of others above her own. She was an intrepid adventurer in every aspect of life, participating in activities that were beyond her wildest dreams, including learning to ski, bird hunt, fly fish – even catching a world record black marlin on fly. Cary could be seen hiking the Appalachian Trail in her bright red lipstick wishing she were wearing her stiletto heels instead of the "ugly" hiking boots.
Cary graduated from Stonewall Jackson High School in Charleston, West Virginia. She then attended Hollins College and transferred to the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. Cary began a career of breaking barriers for women immersing herself in fields dominated by men. She graduated Phi Beta Kappa majoring in economics. Cary was a member of the Old Well and the President of the Women's Honor Council.
In addition to being a remarkable wife, mother, and grandmother, Cary served the local community and state in many groundbreaking and significant ways. Cary was elected to the Buncombe County Board of Education and twice was an elected member of the Buncombe County Board of Commissioners.
Cary had a keen interest in the educational system of North Carolina. Cary served as a board member of the University of North Carolina Board of Governors. She was a board member of the North Carolina Board of Education. She served as a Co-Chairman of the North Carolina Teaching Trainer Task Force. Cary was a member and secretary of the Board of Trustees of the University of North Carolina – Asheville. Cary was a Trustee of the Arts and Sciences Foundation at the University of North Carolina - Chapel Hill. She was also a member of The Morehead-Cain Scholarship Selection Committee. In recognition of Cary's service to North Carolina, she was awarded The Order of the Long Leaf Pine by Governor James Martin.
Cary had a profound impact on health care in North Carolina by serving as a director of the UNC Health Care System Board; Director and Chairman of the Memorial Mission Medical Center and Hospital; and Director of the Mission/St. Joseph's Board of Directors. She was an Advisory Board Member of the Kate B. Reynolds Charitable Trust; and President of the Mountain Area Health Education Center.
In Asheville, Cary served on the initial board of the WNC Community Foundation and was the President of the Asheville Community Concert Association. She was a board member of the United Way. Cary was a founding member of the Pack Square Park Conservancy creating the park as a destination in downtown Asheville. A cradle Episcopalian, Cary demonstrated her strong faith in the way she lived her life. She was Senior Warden at All Souls Cathedral where she taught Sunday school and served on numerous committees.
The family wishes to thank Tammy Thomas for her unwavering dedication. The family also wishes to thank Cary's devoted caregivers Helen Suber, Donna Suber, and Tia Davis. Cary has received superb medical care from Dr. Peggy Noel and her team at Memory Care; Drs. Jim Cummings, Clay Ballantine and Elizabeth Gardner at Blue Ridge Premier Medicine; the staff on the 4th floor at Mission Hospital; and the staff at the John F. Keever, Jr. Solace Center – CarePartners.
A memorial service will be held on Wednesday, May 8 at 11:00 am at The Cathedral of All Souls Episcopal Church, 9 Swan Street in Asheville, NC. A private interment will be held following the service. In lieu of flowers, the family requests memorial donations be made to either Memory Care, 100 Far Horizons Lane, Asheville, NC 28803 or John F. Keever, Jr. Solace Center – CarePartners, PO Box 25338, Asheville, NC 28813.
Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian is assisting the family.
She was gracious lady and wonderful neighbor….We and the community will miss her tremendously…
Cary was very special to me, my wife, and all of our staff at FIG. She will be greatly missed. All our blessings to Charlie and the family.
Cary will be remembered for her engaging and welcoming personality. She enjoyed life and people. It is a loss to her family and to our Community.
We are very sorry for your loss.
Charlie-
Cary’s obit. in today’s paper brought back good memories of your time on the Warren Wilson Board; you were always someone I looked forward to seeing.
I didn’t know her personally, but knew of her; please accept my condolences. Alzheimer’s is like having 2 deaths; you often loose the person years before their physical death. This happened with my favorite uncle a few years ago and it was painful, so blessings on you and your family through all this.
John R. Showalter
To all the Owen family..Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Charlie:
The State of North Carolina and your family lost a beautiful girl. Dody and I send prayers and condolences to you.
Dearest Charlie and family,
Your wife, mother, grandmother and friend, was clearly part of the hidden face of God. She will always be near.
Jim and I send you our love,
Johanna
Cary was grace and charm and intellect in a single, lovely being. Our sympathy to the Owen and Caperton families.
Charlie,
Our deepest sympathy to you and all of your family.
David and Debbie Fann
Dear Charlie & Owen family members,
We have been involved in each other’s lives since the 80s both as neighbors and through marriage so your loss is also our loss and we share your sadness. Cary was a beautiful person in so many ways but the very best part of Cary was her willingness to give to others. As a person of accomplishment she did not focus on herself but always looked outward to others whom she could help. The gift of her time to so many organizations was her commitment to others and when you were her guest you always felt welcome because she was pleased to have you with her. We will miss Cary’s warmth, smile, and of course the bright red lipstick and high heels but most of all we will miss her being with us as we move forward with our lives.
Cary always set a fine example of dedication to public service for all of us to follow. She will be missed by many.
our thoughts and prayers are with OWEN family.
sincerely: pat thone-suwan
screen print dept.,
c/o OWEN MFG.
Cary was a trailblazer for many. She was my friend, my mentor, and a champion for great causes.
We are thankful for her life and contributions to this state.
Our sincere sympathy.
Cary and her family were very special to me. She was always so supportive when I was Chief of Police at UNC-A and Biltmore Forest. Cary was known for helping wherever she could within the community,local, and on the state levels. She was truly a remarkable woman in all respects. I extend my sympathy and prayers to the family.
So sorry to learn of Cary’s passing. To many of her friends she was the First Lady of Asheville. Cary was a real trooper for the entire state of NC.
Prayers for all the family.
Dear Charlie and family,our prayers and thoughts are with you. May God Richly bless you.
Cary and I were classmates and friends at Stonewall Jackson High School. I can only imagine the loss her family must feel.
As a teenager Cary was known to be a caring beautiful person. She was always ahead of the rest of us in academics, musical talent, and wisdom.
I am pleased to know how accomplished she became in sports. During the high school years I recall how hard she worked at tennis, cheerleading, running, and basketball. Sportsmanship was her standard no matter the outcome.
I will always treasure her memory as a beautiful person who crossed my life journey and a woman who contributed to making our country a better place for all.
Regards to all family and friends. Kathryn Shaw Bowns
We were so saddened to hear of this loss to the Owen family and the North Carolina community. Cary was a gracious lady and a true leader, qualities we need more of. Our thought and prayers go out for the family.
My thoughts and prayers are with each of you during this difficult time. A true lady in every aspect, Cary will be missed by many in the community.
Cary was a dedicated member of the Board of Governors. As a staff member it was always a pleasure to discuss policy issues with her and provide the information she requested. She served with a clear view of what was best for North Carolina and was missed when she left the Board.
Alan Mabe, formerly SVP for Academic Affairs, UNC-GA
We are very sorry for your loss, our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Barbara, Beverly and Brian Harper
I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR OF CARY’S PASSING ,SHE WAS A GREAT LADY AND A FINE LEADER I WISH THE FAMILY THE BEST AT THIS TIME MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU
Wish we could be with you to attend tomorrow’s service. What an accomplished and special person your mom was, Diana. We send our love and prayers to each of you. God’s blessings on you all,
Leo, Karin, Matt and Alex
Charlie & Family
We are sorry for your loss
Charlie, Gaston and family,
I am so sorry to learn of Cary’s passing. Please be comforted by knowing that she is now in a ‘peace that passes all understanding’.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you, heaven has an amazing angel now. Diana, I have never forgotten the day I met your mother in Raleigh many years ago – she was a true light and a remarkable bundle of energy. Danny and I have you in our prayers. Hugs to you and Joe, Cissy
With great sympathy to the family.
My thoughts are with the Owen clan, especially today, and of Cary, whose friendship and generosity meant so much to my parents and to we 3 McDevitt children. She will be greatly missed. With love, Brandon
Owen Family, so very sorry for loss of your dear mom and wife. I will always remember your mom’s beautiful smile and sweet, kind spirit, Diana! Please know you and your family are in my prayers. I know your grief and pray that God’s love will carry through the coming days!
Sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing, Diana. Keeping you and your family in our prayers.
Steve, Liz, Christine and Eric
Mrs. Owen was a kind, gracious, caring and giving lady. The world is a better place because of her and her contributions and life. She was always so kind to me and made a difference in my life. Her love and devotion to her family was evident in her every day life and is living on in the lives of her children and grandchildren. She made everybody feel special and like they mattered. Keeping you all in my thoughts and my prayers. Cheryl (Fisher) Greene