Brandi Nichole Cowan

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Brandi Nichole Cowan, 26, of 205 Essex Place, Arden, went to be with her Lord on Tuesday, December 2, 2008. Brandi was a native of Mecklenburg Co. but lived in Buncombe Co. most of her life. She was preceded in death by her maternal grandparents, Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Miller. She is the daughter of Jesse B. Cowan of Kinston, NC and Karen Miller Cowan of Arden. Brandi is also survived by her son, Joseph Miller-Bailey of the home; brother, Tim; sister Brie; her paternal grandmother, Mildred Cowan of Asheville; other relatives, foster sisters and many friends. Brandi was a graduate of Carolina Day School and a dedicated volunteer, including working with the recovery at Bay St. Louis, Miss. after Hurricane Katrina, with Meals on Wheels, the Western Carolina Rescue Ministries and the Temperance House and at the time of her death, an employee of the Industries for the Blind. A funeral service will be held at Groce Funeral Home on Patton Avenue at 1:00 pm Saturday. Interment will follow in Sunset Cemetery. The family will be at the residence, 205 Essex Place, Arden. Memorials may be made in Brandi's name to the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation, 6701 Baum Dr., Bldg. B, Suite 240, Knoxville, TN 37919.

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  1. From the Agape Church Family
    Our deepest sympathy and prayers continue to be offered for you and your family. May you find the peace needed in Him, who knows the reins of our hearts and our deepest and most sensitive needs

  2. Dear Cousin Karen:

    Condolences to you and little Joseph. We love you and pray that you stay strong. We all loved Brandi so much. She was a vibrant and loving young woman. Know that our prayers are with you always

  3. Sorry to hear about the death of Brandi. I will be praying for you and the rest of the family. I know that things are hard to bare at this time but trust in god and he will carry you from day to day. I know! I really dont have to tell you that i know you know what god can do. He help everyday carry me through and i can tell you it will get better. You are a great person and god dont put alot of things on us that we cant bare, see BRANDI LEFT YOU A PRECIOUS GIFT your grandson that will turn your tears to smiles. Remember im praying for you and the baby and please do the same for me. I have a hurting heart from the lost of a great friend. Remember if you ever need me call. Thanks for all you did for me. GOD BLESS!

  4. Dear Karen,
    We just heard about the passing of our cousin. We are so sorry for your loss. May the Lord give you peace, comfort and strength during this time of sorrow. We will continue to pray for you and our family.

  5. Our daughter Leah went to school with Brandi at Carolina Day School. I remember Brandi as a sweet and energetic young woman. Our sympathies are with you and your family.
    Janice and Bill Maddox

  6. I consider myself blessed to have known Brandi. She always brought brightness to those around her. Karen, she was so lucky to have you as a mother. I’m sure it comforts her to know that you will be raising her beautiful son. While I know this is a sad time, you will perservere and I am here for you whenever you need me.

    Sonia Eldridge

  7. I am very saddened by the passing of Brandi. She was my sister. I have very fond memories of her. She was a very sweet child…and I loved her hearty laugh! I also remember our childish fights! Brandi and I shared a bed and she hated sleeping under the covers! I remember us fighting one night because I couldn’t get enough the covers. She preferred to lay on top of them, while I liked to sleep under them. I hate that I wasn’t able to see her and bid her farewell…she will be sorely missed.

  8. Dear Karen and Family,

    I am truly sorry for your loss. I am grateful for the opportunity of meeting Brandi, yourself and her precious son. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

  9. I was so sorry to hear of Brandi’s passing. I have such fond memories of Brandi from Carolina Day School. She will truly be missed. My thoughs and prayers are with her friends & family.

  10. I just wanted to stop by and share with you, as you celebrate the life and home-going of your Precious Brandi.Just know this:that although she is absent from the body she is present with the Lord.In time it will hurt less and less and your night will pass away.She will always be with you in your heart.My prayers remain with you!! Co-Pastor Deborah Dudley


  12. I worked with Brandi many years ago at ClientLogic in Asheville. She was such a sweet person…kind and genuine. It is very sad to read of her passing. My prayers and thoughts are with her family.

  13. I was actually coming to view my baby brother’s guestbook. And I saw Brandi’s obituary. Oh- how I hurt for you. I am 25 years old. (My birthday is only 2 days after Brandi’s), I have a nine year old daughter and I lost my nineteen year old brother, Chris Waters, only 4 months ago. I know how it feels to go through something so hard. Brandi looks like she is a wonderful girl and will be truly missed. In addition, I lost my fiance, the father of my daughter, two years ago. I wanted to write to Brandi’s mother and let her know that she will go through some difficult times with BRandi’s son, but to just be honest with him and let him cling to you as you cling to him and you will find out that he will probably be a strength for you as you are a strength for him. I feel so much hurt for you. I wish I was there to give you a hug. I am sorry for your loss and I hope that you will find some kind of comfort in the years to come. Love, Allison

  14. Dear Family and Friends of Brandi, Brandi is in Heaven with God just like our Dad Tony is who just passed away too. We will pray for all of you in this time of grief. We are going through it too. God Bless You, Carol, Dawn and Cheryl

  15. Dear Karen and family,

    What a difficult time for all of you. Though I never had the pleasure of meeting Brandi, I knew of her struggles through Karen. I pray that your knowledge of Heaven being a place of no pain provides you with comfort. Keep little Joseph close to your heart ~ what a precious piece of herself that Brandi has left for you all.

    In sympathy,

  16. Karen, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, with sympathy as well as gratitude for Brandi’s short time on earth.

  17. Karen and Family,
    May the joy Brandi brought to your lives sustain you through this difficult time. My thoughts are with you,
    Tamara Norris

  18. Dear Karen, There are no words to express how sorry I am to hear the news about Brandi. She was a wonderful young woman whose life was much too short. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Love, Cecelia

  19. Karen and family,

    I am deeply saddened by your loss of Brandi. I pray that God gives you strength and through that strength you find peace and understanding. The loss of a child causes pain that takes time to fade. May God be with each of you.

    Much love and sympathy,
    Cheryl Harris

  20. My comdolences to all the family for their loss. Brandi was a nice, thoughful person, and she will be truely missed.

  21. My condolences to all the family for their loss. Brandi was a nice, thoughful person, and she will be truely missed.

  22. Dear Karen and Family,
    My sincere and heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I have such fond memories of Brandi as a student here at Carolina Day School. It was a pleasure to know such a sweet and caring person. She meant a lot to me and to all her teachers. I will be in Charlotte tomorrow, so I am unable to attend her services, but my heart will be with you.
    With deep sympathy,
    Peggy Daniels

  23. I often visit the obituaries here as I am now living out of town, but grew up in Asheville. As I read of Brandi Cowan, I realized an angel has gone from Earth. I’m sure her presence here was a gift and her work here is done. Her smile reflects a sweet spirit. May you be comforted in your sorrow.

  24. Bill and I are so sorry to hear about your lost. Our prayer are with you. May our God of comfort and peace be with you always.

  25. Brandi and I had known each other since we were children. We lost touch as we became older but later found each other through her dear mother. Even thought our friendship was joining again it was like we never lost touch. As if we still heard from each other daily. She was so sweet and a wonderful friend. Someone who would listen to my problems no mater what without missing a word I said. Who would tell me exactly how she felt about my situation even if I had to own up to my mistakes (just like her mother would do). I know she is with the lord now but I also know she will still listen to me when I need a shoulder. That’s the Brandi I know and the Brandi that will live with me. Brandi I know how much you love Joseph and I want you to know I understand your feelings for him and no matter what he is loved by us all as well as take care of. I’m pretty sure you will see to that miles away. Dont worry about him not growing up without you because your mother has a strong heart that never gives up even when the battle gets hard. She is a fighter and thats who you get that from. She will tell Joseph about his mommy every day if she have to even if he ask questions by the minute. However I will always love your son and treat him as if he was my own becasue I know how much you went through to carry him as well as after (like I say your a fighter). I want to cry becasue I miss you so much. I did for a moment but then I stopped because you would ask me what I was crying for and tell me I better snap out of it. God knows I wanted to walk down the hall (during my stay in the hospital) to see you. But it was risky! Your mother was honest and told me I did not need to because of the risk to me. She did not say this to be mean she said this because she care and love us both. She is a mother to me. Someone strong and loving. I hear she is staying strong right now and I know that’s true. Ms. Karen I love you and I will always be here for you no matter what it may be. I know you will do the same for me. I am sorry your fighting this battle but you and Brandi both are strong. However if you need to cry you do so dont hold back and if you need me to do so you just let me know. Im sorry I can’t there right now ( I know you understand) but I know you would tell me to take care of myself and me not doing so is not going to change the situation with Brandi that it would only change my situation. Joseph don’t you worry about anything you are well taking care of (as you know). Your grandmother is awesome. Even though once your older you may become angry with her she is always going to love you and support you through it all. I pray you learn to fight your battles like she and your mommy. When you get older don’t forget you can come to me (as well as your grandmother and anyone who is supportive of you) for anything (your mother would do the same thing for my child) no matter what it is. Family and friends I want you to stay strong because Brandi would want you to. I could carry on and on telling you how Brandi was a true friend and b/c I miss her but you all know how much of a true friend she was and I know she will always be). I’m hurt but staying strong all because Brandi would tell me not to worry about it, dry my tears and carry on because life still goes on. I send my deepest condolences with love!

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