Doris Lee Butler Fender

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Asheville – On Tuesday, June 6, 2006, God reached out his hand through the clouds to Doris Fender, 71, and said, Doris, your work on earth is done, come on home and be with me. Mrs. Fender was born on July 6, 1934, in Buncombe County. She was a member of Skyland Baptist Church and had retired from Eaton Cutler Hammer Corp. in Arden. Mrs. Fender was preceded in death by her father, Arthur Butler of Arden; mother Edna McClellan of Enka; brother, Eugene Butler of Arden and a very loving and special aunt, Bessie Jenkins of Asheville. Mrs. Fender is survived by her husband of 56 years, James Edward Fender, Sr.; three sons, James Edward Fender, Jr., and his wife Jo Eleanor, of Marion, Ricky Eugene Fender of Asheville and Mickey Charles Fender, and his wife Donna, of Hendersonville; two sisters, Lois Barrett of Oteen, Ruth Ballard of West Asheville; two brothers, Donald McClellan of Arden and Arthur Butler, Jr. of Taylorsville; two half-sisters, Carolyn Camby and Peggy Willis; four brothers-in-law, Charles Fender, Ted Fender and Wayne Fender of Fletcher and Levi Fender of Leicester; a sister-in-law, Ima Jean Wilson of Fletcher and a very dear, loving and special uncle, Edward Logan Jenkins of Asheville. She also had two grandsons, three granddaughters and seven great grandchildren. Funeral services will be held at 2:00 pm on Friday at Skyland First Baptist Church conducted by the Revs. David Honeycutt and Perry Brindley. Burial will follow in New Salem Baptist Church Cemetery. The family will receive friends from 7 until 9 pm Thursday at Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian and at other times will be at the home located at 7 Edgewood Road, Asheville. Memorials may be made to the Skyland First Baptist Church in the name of Doris Fender Sanctuary Fund, P.O. Box 278, Skyland, NC 28776.

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  1. All my love to Mamaw Fender. I have loved you for so many years. You are in my heart forever. I send my love to the family and hope that you will call upon me anytime for any thing. Mostly, I want you to know that I share with you the great loss of a great woman. She was a role model to me and I am ever so grateful to have had her in my life. Love, Debra, Dennis, and Boo (DJ).

  2. Uncle James And Family,
    My Thoughts are with you in time of sorrow, Aunt Doris was with me when I needed her. She was a very special person. We’ll all miss her If any of you need anything don’t hesitate to call me I work at Galyeans jewelers the number is listed She was a very loved person.

    A Time Will Come,
    When We All Must Face
    The Loss of a Parent,
    A Friend or a Mate.

    It’s a Burning Pain, A Fire Deep Withen,
    You’ll Get to a Point,
    You Think It Won’t End.

    Years Pass, The Pain Starts To Heal
    The Love That You Gave Us,
    We’ll Always Feel

    You’ll Forever Be Loved,
    You’ll Always be Missed
    The Tears we’ve Cried,
    That One Last Kiss

    You Filled Our Lives With Joy and Love
    Now You Look Down Upon Us
    From Heaven Above

  3. The Lord called home one of his most loving and faithful children when he called Doris Fender ‘Mammaw’ home Tuesday morning. The loss of my beloved grandmother is almost unbearable, combined with the knowledge that I will not even be able to attend her services. However in this time of hardship I can hear her voice as clear as ever telling me not to worry that everything will be fine. She says to me that she is in a greater place now where no pain or heartache can reach her. While I morn the loss of the greatest women that I have ever known, I must also celebrate the life that she lead. Doris Fender was the most kind and generous person that I ever had the pleasure of loving. She handed out Hope Love and Faith like it was candy in her pocket. From her closest of kin to a complete stranger she always gave all that she had. From a kind word to the last dime that she had, if she had it she gave it. Everyone who crossed her path in life was blesssed in one way or another even if they didn’t know it at the time. So it is up to us, her surviving family to continue to spread the love and compassion that she spent her life giving to others. We must carry her faith into the future and teach our children the lessons that she taught us. We must pass on the hope and forgiveness that she so freely gave to all that cross our paths. In doing so we ensure that she never far away and forever in our hearts, and allow our children and our childrens children to know this great woman and the love that she continuously gave. Let us take that love into the future and spread it to all that we can, and celebrate the life and love of Doris ‘mammaw’ Fender!

  4. In Memory of Mamaw Fender

    There was a woman who had been diagnossed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things ‘in order’ she contacted her pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. She told him which songs she wanted sung at her service, what scriptures she would like read and what outfit she wanted to be burried in… The woman also requested to be burried with her favorite Bible. Everything was in order and the pastor was preparing to leave when to woman sudddenly remembered something very important to her. There’s one more thing she said excitedly. What’s that the pastor replied. This is very important, I want to burried with a fork in my right hand. The pastor looked at the woman not knowing quite what to say. That surprises you dosen’t it the woman asked. Well to be honest I am puzzled by the request the pastor replied. The woman explained, In all my years of attending chirch socials and potluck dinners, I always remember when the dishes of the main course were being cleared someone would inevitably lean over and say ‘Keep your fork’. It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was comming, like velvety chocolate cake, or deep dish apple pie. Something wonderful and with substance! So I just want people to see me there in my casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder ‘whats with the fork?’ Then I want you to tell them, ‘Keep your fork… the best is yet to come!’ The pastor’s eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged to woman good bye. He knew this would be the last time he would see her before her death. But, he also knew that she had a better grasp of Heaven than he did. She KNEW that something better was comming. At her funeral people were walking by her casket and they saw the pretty dress she was wearing and her Bible and the fork. Over and over the pastor heard ‘whats with the fork?’ and over and over he smilled. During his service he told the people of the conversation he had had with the woman shorly before she died. He told them about the fork and what it symbolized to her. He told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and that they would probably not be able to stop thinking about it either. So the next time you reach down for your fork, let it remind you, oh so gently, that the best is yet to come. Also let it remind you of Doris Fender and the Magnificent life that she lived, and the example that she left us all to follow. Then as your tears flow and your heart aches at the loss of someone so special and loved, let it remind you of where she is now. I love you Mammaw and miss you always. Love Scotty

  5. Eddie,Rick,Mickey, I just wanted to let you all know how sorry we are to hear about your mother. I remember when I was growing up over on Rock Hill how nice a lady she always was to us kids. If there is anything you need or that we can do let us know. Our phone number and address down here is 864-442-005, 5026 Sunset Drive Easley SC 29642.

  6. Dear Fender Family – My family wishes to extend to all of you our deepest sympathies for your loss. Doris was always a very special person in the Skyland Baptist family to me, and Amanda. She always made it a point to come see Amanda when we were in town at church, and asked Mom and Dad about her often. For that, I am eternally grateful and blessed by knowing her through the years.
    Our love and prayers,
    Dan, Regina and Amanda Krofchick
    Eric Bassett

  7. Eddie,Rick,and Mickey,Haven’t seen you guys in a long time. Just want you to know we’re thinking of you.
    Gary & Carolyn Parton

  8. Our sympathy and prayers go out to all of the family. We apologize for missing the services. If there is anything we can do for any of you feel free to let us know. We love you all. Kim Jenkins Rogers and Dottie Jenkins Sanders

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