April 17, 1958 ~ April 16, 2016

Born in: Brooklyn, NY,
Resided in: Asheville, NC

Jeffrey E Madden, 57, unexpectedly passed away Saturday, April 16th, of congested heart failure due to complications brought on by pneumonia, at his home in Asheville, NC. Born in Brooklyn on April 17 1958, he was raised in Valley Stream Long Island. He spent over 30 years living in San Francisco and his beloved Marin County before settling in Asheville NC in 2010. Jeff is survived by his beloved pets: Jag, Astro, Bandit & Sprocket, his loving large family and the multiple, multiple! close friends that naturally gravitated to Jeff's always funny quick wit, his opinionated views on life, and that contagious, boisterous laughter. His friends were from over the country, primarily based in FL, CA, NY, MI, MD, IN, TX & NC. His immediate family: Arthur & Elizabeth Madden, Jennifer, Jean-Jacques & Luke Carquillat all of Kingston NY, Charlie & Lisa Brodbar, Kristopher Brodbar & Liz Gonzales all of Plantation Florida, Mark Madden and Janice Murchison of NYC & Long Island, Gary Anderson & Chele LeBarron of Berlin Delaware, Jon & Kristine Hoppus & Robin Losey, Steve & Beth Anderson all of Indiana; Kate Losey of MA. Come join us for a celebration of Jeff's beautiful 'Larger than Life' personality & spirit being planned in Asheville, NC on Saturday, June 25th. For more information on his memorial event, please contact or text his long-time partner Gregg Anderson at 415-786-7100. In lieu of flowers, the family graciously requests that memorial donations be made in Jeff's name to your local SPCA or their international office at www.spcai.org. Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian is assisting the family.

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  1. I am so sorry and sad. Jeff touched my life in many ways. His sense of humor was impeccable. We enjoyed great conversations. He introduced me to some great movies. He will be missed.

  2. You were the funniest, smartest, and most loving baby brother anyone could have ever hoped for. We were more like ‘twins’ than just brother and sister because we were so alike. Everything we did was ‘over the top’. When we disagreed, we argued and fought hard. When we loved each other, which was every day of our lives, we loved each other even harder than seemed possible. I will love and miss you every day for the rest of my life. My heart is breaking over losing you, but one day we will be together again. Until we are together again, Lisa (Squeaky)

  3. Gregg, We are so very sorry to hear of Jeff’s death. We are also sorry for the fact that we always intended to pay a visit – your invitation was extended often – but never have. 57 is just too young, but it is not ours to choose the time or place. Take time to grieve, but in time we pray the sadness will lessen and all the wonderful memories will return. We love you, Gregg and are grieving with you and for you, Aunt Dee and Uncle Bruce

  4. Jeff, I will be forever grateful for your comfort and listening ear during my divorce in ’02. It helped me heal and find new love. Your fun loving personality has forever changed our family for the better. Rest peacefully.

  5. Gregg – Your Michigan Anderson cousins & Aunt/Uncle are all so so sorry for your loss. We were stunned to hear this news and so sad that even tho we’ve all meant to visit you – we have not done so yet and now will miss the chance to share with Jeff too. Just know that we all love you, are proud of you and think of you so very often. We are here for you and I know will be in touch. Love you always… Uncle Bruce, Aunt Dee, Larry, Karen, Mark, Ashley, Jason, Theresa, Austin, Jessie, Kasey, Jeff, Kelly, Taylor, Kate, Chuck, Heather and newest baby girl cousin on the way.

  6. I remember Jeff always generous with his time to show u the cities he loved, San Fran and Asheville. You were always going to get a wonderful gift during your visit from him. His knowledge and love of movies and music were unmatched. His pets, I think he had one of each. All loved by him. I am sadden by his sudden passing and the void left in Gregg’s life. Last, the one thing I will always remember no one rocked cowboy boots like the Madden! Love

  7. Jeff was a big part of my youth. I was very glad to reconnect with him a few years back. He was very funny and caring. I still can’t believe this news. It’s unreal. Gregg…my deepest sympathies.

  8. Jeff my heart is so broken now that you are no longer with us!! We were so close as teenagers and many years we lost touch, but I am so fortunate that we reconnected as I feel that we were closer than ever!!!! You gave me more strength, care and love than I ever could imagine!!! I am going to be lost with out you!! I truly love you so much and I will keep you close to my heart at all times. You were so funny, smart, and loving!! You have really taught me the meaning of a TRUE FRIEND…. Rest in peace Jeffy… Love babycakes

  9. Sorry I wasn’t there to help you in your time of need. I always helped you when you needed anything, from the time we were teenagers up until now. We spoke almost every day for the last thirty years and never argued, just laughed and had funny conversations. I will miss you every day, but your spirit will always be with me. You were not only my brother, but my best friend. All your friends feel your spirit too: Hotdog, The Landlord, Wendy the Bun, Berger Butt, Coco Chanel and Janice. We all loved you as a person and a friend. Good night sweet prince, may flights of angels see you to your rest.

  10. I want to express my sincere condolences for the loss Jeff. Our family has also gone thru this experience recently. One thing that brought us comfort and hope is the promise found in God’s word, the Bible. Revelations 21:3,4 says that God will ‘wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no morĂ©’. What a wonderful promise, and we can trust in it, because God does not lie.
    It is my sincere hope that these words bring hope and comfort to your family as it did to our. You are in my thoughts and prayers and my heart aches for your loss.

  11. GREGG, I am so sorry you lost your Husband, Jeff and love of your life, His love of you was so evident every time I spoke with him.He always made me laugh about the Marriage on the stairs of City Hall in San Francisco. Jeff was so proud to be your Husband but he also had a great joke about the Officiant yelling at the Asian kids. Jeff had so much spirit and his love of life was so enjoyable. He always put me in the best mood and I just loved his naughty laugh. I know all about his family and neighbors and irreverent view, but always loving, look at life. Jeff loved all of his pets so much, I hope he will be there to greet them at the Gates of Heaven. I will always love and miss Jeff to the moon and back, you have earned your wings.
    Love Cindy

  12. My darling Jeff, my best friend, my family ~ you will be missed everyday of my life!
    I never mixed business with friendship, ever. Jeff called my office, many years ago when he & Gregg lived in San Rafael, & asked me to refinance their mortgage. Jeff’s charisma, engaging personality & his Umor (he never pronounced the ‘H’) snuck up on me & caused me to break my golden rule ~ I couldn’t resist his charm. We became fast friends almost immediately! The 2nd transaction I did for him professionally was much later, but the 1st time we met face to face. My office parking lot was full of Mercedes, Porches, BMW’s, Jaguars, etc. Jeff came rolling up in his Classic T-Bird & most of my 70 business associates had their noses pressed to the windows, everyone of them admiring his car!
    Although we had already become very close phone friends, it was my 1st chance to match the face of my friend, with his beautifully deep, resonant voice!
    Every single day since I met him, we spent time together ~ usually on the phone, particularly after the move to Asheville. Before the move, we shared some unforgettable times together! We visited each other’s homes, went to a Giants ‘s game together & even traveled to Las Vegas together. Too many fun times to recount….
    The day we went to the baseball game, it was a beautiful, warm day game. Jeff had to forgo his signature cowboy boots, in favor of shorts, to accommodate the weather. Going down to our seats, I teased him about his ‘great legs’ trying to embarrass him, in fun. He liked it! That man always made me laugh! He was more entertaining than the game & I’m a diehard fan! We laughed so hard, we were nearly hit with a foul ball we didn’t see coming!
    We could (& did) talk forever ~ Gregg teased him about being on the phone with me 3 hours everyday! Jeff was so full of colorful outrageous stories that never failed to warm my heart & entertain me!
    It was my honor, and one of the most special days of my life, to be included in his wedding day! That man was so gorgeous in his Tux ~ it brought tears to my eyes….
    In 2011, I had a terrible tragedy in my life. Jeff was there for me every step of the way, the helping me to survive it. He quite literally saved my life! I would not have made it without him. I owe him a debt I can never repay. It’s so unfair that I’m still here & he is not. It breaks my heart!
    Jeff, you know I will love & miss you every single day of my life! But so much of you, your antics, your kind & generous soul, with live on in my heart, forever! I still hear your voice the day you pronounced us ‘family’. You are my family forever, Jeff, and you’ll never be forgotten, ever. I miss you so much, baby! You were, and always will be, the best friend I’ve ever had! I can already feel you as the Angel sitting on my shoulder! I love you Jeff. If communication is possible, I have faith you & I will find a way ~ I’ll be waiting for your visit ~
    If only in my dreams. Rest in Peace my dear friend.

  13. I met Jeff when he was 13 and for the 45 years loved him like a brother actually closer to me than my 2 brothers. We had a myriad of things in common from jokes and movies and partying but most of all that what brought us together. That being the love of his sister who he loved, counted on her for always being there for him and having his best interest in mind all through the years. We had special words for almost everything one being DAR TEAK shock we must have said to each other a million times.
    I have and always will love you till the end of time

  14. I am so sorry for your loss. May the God of all comfort provide your family with strength during this difficult time. (2 Corinthians 1: 3,4)

  15. Dear Jeff. This is just so sad for me that you have left this earth. I remember when you came to NY and stayed in Long Beach with Mark and me. I only wish that you and Gregg had come visit again to stay in my apartment in Manhattan. We talked about it so often but it just didn’t happen. That is such a regret.
    Mark loves you so much and misses you so much you just can’t imagine.
    Coco misses you too.
    Until we are all joined again.
    All my love.

  16. I am deeply sorry for your loss. May God continue to be with your family and friends during this difficult time. John 5: 28, 29, provides comfort or anyone grieving, My prayers will be with your family and friends.

  17. My biggest sucker, my Daddy, Jeff:
    I’ve missed you so much! I especially missed all the times you knew I was faking and gave me treats anyway! We both knew I could never fool you, but we both pretended, and you let me get away with it. I always knew the path to your heart! Then, when I was really naughty, and you cut off the treats, my Daddy Gregg, was always there with soft words and cuddles. He snuck me treats, even you didn’t know about. I will miss him forever, & think of him, & all he did for me, before I ever bark again. Today, I earned my wings too. Please Daddy, meet me at the gates & show me the way. Now we’ll be together forever & we can watch over Gregg, Astro, Bandi & Sprocket together! I’ll miss Gregg always; but I’ll be waiting for you at the gates ~ come get me Daddy!
    Love, Jag. 05-05-16 (J-eff A-nd G-regg)

  18. Hi my name is Kayla and I am a local bible teacher. I am so sorry for the loss of your loved one. There is a very comforting scripture at Isaiah 25:8. It says that soon Jehovah will swallow up death forever and that he will wipe away all of the tears. So we can all look forward to a time when death will be no more. I hope that this scripture can bring some true comfort during these difficult times.

  19. Very sorry to read about the loss of your loved one. Our prayers and thought go out to you and your family. May you find comfort form Jehovah words at Rev 21: 3 & 4 promised to remove death forever. And his son Jesus spoke of the resurrection hope of begin reunited with our love ones. John 5: 28 & 29.



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