January 29, 1959 ~ February 10, 2020

Born in: Asheville, NC
Resided in: Fletcher, NC

Micky Charles “Pop” Fender, 61, of Fletcher, passed away Monday, February 10, 2020 at his residence.

Raised in Asheville, he was a son of the late James Edward and Doris Lee Butler Fender, Sr.

Micky is survived by his loving wife, Donna Collins Fender and their fur-baby, “Honey”; one son, Mickey Scott Fender (Heather); three daughters, Kimberly Fisher Wise (Billy), Serena Fender Graham (Jonathan) and Tina Reese Cole (Brody); seven grandchildren, Dylan Jonathan Graham, Sarah Rebecca Graham, Makenna Paige Wise, Hadleigh Grace Wise, Asher Jennings Wise, Kennedy Lee Cole and Reagan Michelle Cole; two brothers, James Edward Fender Jr. (JoEllen) and Ricky Eugene Fender and one nephew, Sonny Eugene Fender.

Family and friends will gather to celebrate his life during a visitation to be held from 1:00 until 3:00 PM on Saturday, February 15 in the Chapel of Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that memorial donations be made to the Wounded Warrior Project (www.woundedwarriorproject.org).


Visitation: February 15, 2020 1:00 pm - 3:00 pm

Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian
72 Long Shoals Road
Arden, NC 28704


Room: Chapel

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The family greatly appreciates donations made to these charities in Micky Charles "Pop" Fender's name.

Wounded Warrior Project


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  1. Mickey was a good guy. He and my brother are now together again so you two can play hide and seek behind the trees. Rest In Peace and see you again one day!

  2. The Family of Ricky Fender; So very sorry for your loss, and it was such a great shock.
    Donna and kids and Grandkids. I am sure you are all going to miss Ricky Very much.
    May Ricky C (Pop) rest in Peace.
    Harley, Judy and Mack Fender.

  3. to my cousin for the death of the family member. I hope you and your family get all the support and strength to sail through this difficult time.

  4. Serena, Scotty, Donna and family, my heart is broken to hear of Mickey’s passing! I cannot remember a time when Mickey wasn’t a part of our family. Not only was he a best friend to Ronnie, but also a big brother to the rest of the Anderson gang!!! Please know that I loved him very much, and will miss his sweet smile and wonderful hugs!!! My thoughts, prayers and love are with you all!!

  5. Uncle Mick,I will always be grateful for the curves in my life that you never hesitated to help guide me through and around. My heart is broke for life and love from it went with you on ur journey home. I love you man and will see you again my friend. FRIENDS AND FAMILY LOST A TREMENDOUS DAD,UNCLE,BROTHER,GRANDPA AND HUSBAND . . . JESUS GAINED A VERY MIGHTY WARRIOR! Again , I love you man and will miss u for life Uncle Mick. Rest easy. Love always

  6. Donna, so sorry to hear about Mickey. He was so good to me during a difficult time. I send you and your family love and hugs.

  7. If I’d only known
    I’d have stayed a little longer
    Gone more often
    Taken the picture
    Paid more attention
    Listened more intently
    Memorized your voice
    Back when I had a choice

    If I’d only known
    I’d laugh a little louder
    Sit a little closer
    Hug a little longer
    Ask a few more questions
    Tell another story
    Sing another song
    While you were here to sing along

    But I didnt know
    Time was running out

    I didnt know
    The song was ending
    Music fading
    Story closing
    Sun was setting
    Chances spoiling
    I love you Daddy.


  9. So sorry to hear about Mickey. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all during this very difficult time.
    Derrick & Shannon Ward

  10. Mick We love you so very much 💕💜 And we never knew so far away And so close too You slipped away in the dark of the night,But you will always be our star that shines so very bright ✨⭐️✨⭐️🌹🌹🌹Love always and forever Brenda Rick Sonny Fender

  11. Mick, you were a brother to me and all of my family. You’d selflessly do anything for any of us and everyone you knew.. You were a far greater and bigger man than you ever knew.. So lost and sad here. Please come back… 😥
    brother Kevin

  12. Oh my goodness. I knew Mickey all my life growing up in Arden. One of the gang. So many fun times. So much trouble we got into. Such a great and caring guy. Gone too soon. So very very sorry to hear of his passing. Prayers for the family.

  13. Mickey, if only we had known how troubled you were. If we just had that day back. Maybe we could have reached out to you. None of us will ever know what went through your mind that split second. If only someone understood the pain you were feeling that day! You were a kind soul with a heart of gold! My whole family loved you and hate that you are gone! May peace be with you now and forever. Much love, Kandi

  14. Sorry to hear the news Mickey. I pray you’re resting comfortably in Heaven and I know you’ll be missed. Glad to have known you in school.

  15. My thoughts and prayers are with the Fender family. You have all lost a great person. Rest in Peace Micky. You always had a smile. Such a gentle soul. Fly high with the Angels now.

  16. Our Prayers are with all of you. Micky was a wonderful person. Always the same every time you seen him. Heaven has gained a special Angel.

  17. We were so saddened to hear about Micky’s passing. His kind soul and giving spirit touched so many and will never be forgotten. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with the entire family during this difficult time.

  18. My heart hurts for your family
    Your Mom and Dad were always so sweet to me at church. I guess the last time I saw you was at your parents 50th anniversary at Skyland church
    Love and will miss you forever.

  19. Micky, wish I could have gone on this journey with you. Everyone has had to go on with their life. I’m alone now and don’t know how to go on without you. My heart is broken. I don’t know what to do. I’m so lost without you. I know your pain is gone now and your not suffering. That’s what you’ve wanted for so long. I’m being selfish I know but I Love You and wish you could have stayed with me. Honey keeps waiting for daddy to come in the door. I’ll never say goodbye, but will be with you again. Thank you for loving me and giving me 27 beautiful years. I Love You

  20. Everyone has had to get back to their lives. I’m alone now for the first time since you went away. I’m so lost and alone without you . You went through so much pain for so long, but you were my rock and tried so hard not to show the pain. Thank you for 27 beautiful and loving years. Honey is watching the door waiting for daddy to come home to her. I love you and will be with you again.


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