Paul Bickett Summey, II

paul summey, ii

October 9, 1946 ~ March 29, 2018


Resided in: Asheville, North Carolina

Paul Bickett “Scoot” Summey II (1946 - 2018) - Born in Hampton, VA, Paul was an Air Force brat who grew up all over the South, including Tryon, NC; Gaffney, SC; Savannah, GA; and Columbus, MS. He graduated from the Georgia Military Academy in Atlanta, GA, and tried his hand at UNC-Chapel Hill for a few semesters, before eventually landing at Ole Miss. While there, Paul was a member of the Kappa Alpha fraternity, in Army ROTC, graduated with a degree in Education, and never once spent any time in the library. Before entering the Army, Paul taught PE for a year at the American School in Taipei, Taiwan, where he met his future wife, Diane. They were married in September 1969 at Fort Bragg, NC, and Paul’s first active duty stations were in glamorous Mineral Wells, TX, and Fort Rucker, AL, while Paul was in helicopter flight school. A year later, Paul was sent to Vietnam, where he received the Bronze Star, Distinguished Flying Cross and other commendations. After Vietnam, Paul stayed in the service and he and Diane lived in Panama for a year and a half. At the time of his discharge he had achieved the rank of Captain. Paul and Diane moved to Atlanta and then Miami, FL, eventually ending up in Cypress, CA, in 1976. By then, Paul had already begun his 30 year career at Procter & Gamble. He was an award-winning salesman (most proud of his “Safe Driving Awards”), manager and corporate trainer with a car trunk stuffed with toothbrushes, Crest, Scope and Pampers. Paul enjoyed the California weather but not the traffic. He was happy to return to the East Coast in 1983 where he and Diane lived in Herndon, VA, until 2004, when they retired to Asheville, NC. While in Virginia, Paul earned his Masters in Pastoral Counseling from Loyola College in Maryland. Paul never met a stranger and could find a shared connection with anyone. His network of friends is as extensive as it is eclectic. Always quick with a story or a laugh, he was a kind and gentle man with a robust sense of humor and a genuine interest in other people. He loved tai chi and enjoyed attending tai chi camp every year at Keuka Lake, NY, and teaching at the YMCA and throughout Asheville. A fan of meditation and yoga, he juggled, could ride a unicycle, and walk super fast with a special group of walking buddies. Although he complained about not liking board games, Paul almost never lost a game of Parcheesi. Paul was an avid sports fan, frequently cursing at his beloved Tar Heels or Ole Miss Rebels if they didn’t live up to his expectations. He embraced technology, even if he didn’t always understand it, frequently texting and keeping in touch with friends all over the country. He appreciated fine art and could happily spend hours in any museum, especially the National Gallery and Chicago Art Institute. Paul was intellectually curious, always with a book to read, and enjoyed everything from Tom Clancy novels to Eastern Buddhist Philosophy. In retirement, Paul took up cycling, racquetball, white-water kayaking, and hiking with a wonderful group of friends. He indulged his love of spa treatments, including facials and mani/pedis. He developed his passion for photography, learning as much as he could through books, classes and online tutorials. He enjoyed sending his nature and travel photos to family and friends, always claiming that he still had much to learn. He loved peanut butter, Duke’s relish, going to movies with his son Tripp and heading over to Greensboro to visit with his grandchildren. He was a member of All Souls Church in Biltmore Village, drawn in by the generous and welcoming spirit of its congregation. Paul had a love for traveling and could find a Starbucks in any corner of the world. He and Diane made a yearly visit to Oxford, England, where he was on a first name basis with most of the shop owners and had a “frequent buyer” card from the local coffee house. He went all over the globe, including Slovenia, Italy, the Netherlands, Hungary, Czechoslovakia, Austria, Switzerland and France. On a trip to Australia and New Zealand with his family, Paul was dubbed “Action Man” by some admiring tourists as he bungee jumped in Queenstown. He always enjoyed returning home to NC, where he liked the food, and had an extensive network of cousins, aunts, uncles and close friends that he enjoyed spending time with. Paul is survived by his wife, Diane; daughter, Heather; son, Tripp; son-in-law, Joe; and 4 grandchildren, Robbie, Jacob, Lizzie and Caroline. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Fisher House Foundation, the American Cancer Society or a charity of one’s choice. The family would like to extend its thanks to the medical staffs at the Mission Cancer Center, Mission Hospital and the CarePartners Solace Center for their exceptional care of Paul. A Celebration of Life will be held at 10:00 AM on Saturday, June 2 in the Chapel of Groce Funeral Home at Lake Julian. His family will receive friends following the service.

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  1. Uncle Paul was an extremely positive and shared a beautiful heart with the world. I am grateful to have some short but sweet memories. He is with the angels. God Bless your family.

  2. I am so sorry for the Summey family’s loss. He will be missed. I cannot think of any time that I was fortunate enough to spend with him that wasn’t a happy one. He was a true friend to the Dental Hygiene profession and always seemed to have a zest for life.

  3. Our hearts are heavy with the loss of Paul, but rejoice that he is strong and healthy and entertaining the angels with his joyous personality. We send our thoughts and prayers and love to Diane and family.

  4. Paul will be missed by all. I first met Paul when we were on the Dental team at P&G, then later on the pharma GI team. Paul shared many stories about his family, who he loved dearly. I will always remember Paul as a caring person and a friend. The Summey family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

  5. You couldn’t ask for a better friend then Paul. We became friends with the Summey family when they lived in California. A bond that could not be broken by distance. We are grateful to have known Paul and to have shared some great memories like Angel games, baton events and an extra long snow trip.
    Our thoughts and prayers are with Diane, Heather and her family and Tripp in the hope their memories will help to ease the pain of their great loss.

  6. Dear Diane, we are so sorry for your and your family’s loss. Paul always had a kind word and a wonderful smile. We and the greater Asheville community will miss him.

  7. Thanks Paul for your treasured friendship – I can imagine you pushing hands with Mr. Smith and the Professor now in heaven. Our thoughts are with you all, Diane, Heather and Tripp and all the others who were lucky enough to be touched by Paul’s gentle soul.

  8. Dear Diane,

    So sorry to hear of Paul’s passing. I know we have lost touch over the years but I will always consider Paul and you true friends. Peggy and I will keep you, Paul, Tripp and Heather in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless you!

  9. Condolences to the family and friends. The Bible says that death is an enemy. At Isaiah 25:8 our Heavenly Father promises that he will swallow up death forever. That is something that we can all look forward to. Again our condolence.

  10. Mrs. Summey and Family, may your many wonderful memories of life with Mr. Paul bring you a comfort to share with each other during this time. May you also have the peace and comfort offered by our Heavenly Father Jehovah as promised by His son and our savior, Jesus Christ.

  11. As a classmate at GMA, Paul was a standout in sports and studies. Always smiling, quick witted and a true gentleman. His nickname ‘Scoot’?, was an easy fit as he ran with the football. A loss for everyone near him, but always the warm and fondest memories.

  12. Diane and family….I was so glad to know Paul for he touched me in s special way always asking about my niece, Jackie who was taking flight training at UND at Grand Fork. Paul has a Service friend who taught there. They had a special friendship from living through the Vietnam War and each year they celebrated this by getting together or calling each other—It was a joy to know Paul and I will always treasure his friendship……RIP…….

  13. Diane and family, so sorry to hear about Paul. Our prayers are with you. Pam and Don Wozniak

  14. I flew with Paul in Vietnam. For those who were not witness, know this: Paul’s courage and skill in battle were unmatched. Among those who have answered and not shirked our nation’s call of duty, there are few with the cool fearlessness under fire that Paul had in spades. Paul was special, never to be forgotten by those who served alongside him, nor by those whose lives he saved at the grave risk of his own. Well done and godspeed, my brother!

  15. Who could imagine anyone cramming more ‘stuff’ into one lifetime than Paul? He was tough but so compassionate and loving! We will never forget the kindness and patience he shared with his parents as they aged. Paul’s well-lived life challenges us to make the most of our lives and world. Diane, we send you and your family our love, admiration and appreciation. Namaste

  16. (It is now February, 2024. I just discovered Paul’s obit.)
    I barely knew Paul, but what I saw was important:
    In school year 1961-62, as a new ninth grader at Georgia Military Academy, I was assigned to live on the dormitory section of which Paul was in charge. Paul would have been a junior or senior then. I had a tough time, terribly homesick and occasionally bullied. I recall that “Mr. Summey” exuded fairness and steadiness that I found reassuring. I also recall that he was soft-spoken, among many loudmouths.
    I would not have called myself his friend – rather, I was his subordinate. But how good it was to have him there! Such a good person, even at his young age!


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